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Summary of Question:	Will I Be Forgived
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Friday, 10/11/2002 6:38 AM MDT

waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ka fateh......i read most of all the articles and seem to learn alot from it.....i am a young adult girl in her mid 20's...and i know that my family thinks i am such an innocent and good girl...and they want to do arrange marriage for me and i am okay with that....but recently i just got over a relationship with this other guy...and i am glad it is over so i can have time to focus on my future...and let god take me to my destined man...i was physically involved with this guy....we did not have sex, but at times came close to it....i did love him, but i know that my parents would not agree and he was like 3-4 years younger......and i understand that i want to fill my parents wishes......all i am saying is i want to put my past behind and start over....i want waheguru to forgive me for i am a very strong believer in waheguru and he has given me everything in life...and i dont know why i went towards love and kissing and lust as it may be called....i never thought of myself as that...but it was just this guy.....please help me and tell me that if my life still will be good as i had live....i feel really guilty for my doings and dont know why waheguru let me do all that.....although i am saved from sex....thank god for that....i still have had close relationship with him....we are freinds now and dont really make contact now...and i am over him basically cause i want to get married where my parents feel happy since i am only daughter....please help and please is there any phat that i can do to be forgived....i plan to go to india and visit the gurdwaras and pray to god for my past sins...will i still find true love will god make me happy with my husband....i am had a really lucky and loving life from waheguru and my parents....please help and give advice....thank u...ssa

(REPLY) Sat Nam. Ultimately, what is needed for us is to forgive ourselves. Wahe Guru is all forgiving, and allows us to make mistakes, and continues to bless us, like the sun shining on everyone. When we feel guilty, then we turn our backs on the light, and we suffer. It's wonderful that you are going to India. Hopefully you can do some seva at the Golden Temple, and pray for a "fresh start" -- meanwhile, do everything you can to be a graceful woman, and read all your banis every day, particularly SHABD HAZARAY -- since the power of that is so that you will never be separated from the Guru! So maybe read it several times a day. Start doing seva in a Gurdwara wherever you are living, this is one way to make your future brighter. (I'm not sure if they are now allowing women to wash the floors of the Golden Temple, but if not, there are other Gurdwaras where you could do that.) Blessings, SP