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Summary of Question:	I Love This Guy Very Much
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Sunday, 2/24/2002 3:05 AM MST

sat sri akal

i am a girl residing in india.
i am a sikh and do my paath everyday and regularly go to gurudwara and i try to go to gurudwara as freequently as i can ...........infact i love going to a gurudwara it gives me a happiness
i am in love witha guy who is a hindu
we love eachother a lot........and we respect eachothers religion and beliefs
we both want to get married but not rite now......we r both 19 yrs of age and liek eachother for abt 5 yrs now
can we marry eachother?
but the biggest fear inside me is that i dont want to loose him....i love him a lot.....and till we both r settled with our careers we cant marry
i do the paath of japji sahib everyday........but still have this insecurity that i might loose him, love him more than anything
what shall i do to calm down myself and get rid of this fear
i know i should not be getting bothered by this but still i feel very insecure at times
i just cant think my life without him.............and i really belive in waheguru
thank you for your precious time

(REPLY) You don't mention your parents, and what do they think about this relationship? What about the young man? Has he said he wants to marry you? There is no law that says a Sikh cannot marry a Hindu, but marriages between people of different religions have an added difficulty to overcome - especially when there are children later on. How will you agree to raise them? If you were engaged, you would probably not feel so insecure. However, if you really believe in Wahe Guru, then you know that whatever comes to you in your life is given by the hand of God, so be grateful for everything, and pray for guidance.
Being "in love" is something that may or may not last a lifetime, and marriage is ideally a carriage unto infinity, where two bodies share one soul! Can this be the case with this young man and you? Maybe so, but it takes effort to build a lasting strong marriage and provide a home for a family. When do you expect you will each have your careers all set? Is your career more important than marriage? There are a lot of unanswered questions -- so you need to think more deeply about your long term future, which is hard to do when you are so deeply in an emotional state. I wish you well. Blessings, SP