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Summary of Question:	Love/Moh and a Sikh
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Thursday, 9/28/2000 9:37 PM MDT

Waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh!

I am an amritdhari kuri in the end of my teens. i took amrit about 2 years ago. before that i had a boyfriend, whom i loved truly with all my heart. He was my first and last love. I were friends(bf and gf) for 4 years. Due to the cultural restrictions, my family did not accept our love and was strictly against it. after that i was brought to North America by my family. I have given up hope on the matter that i would ever be able to marry him but i still love him with all my heart. During the time i was with him and even now, when i have taken amrit i always wonder if my feelings for him are right or wrong according to Sikhism. I have decided not to marry because even though we did not have any physical relationships, i took him as my husband in my mind and heart. My family is a very strict but religious family and they are totally against "Love". Whereas i believe that true love with one person is not wrong or a sign of bad character. Honestly speaking, i still miss him and all the times we have spent togeth

er. I do not plan on going back to India because i believe he might be already married to some one by now, because his family was also against us. Well, but that is not my question. My question is that is it wrong the way i feel about him? As guru ji has said that we are not supposed to think of anyone in such a way except for your spouse, am i doing a sin here? if yes, let me tell you that i have no sexual attraction towards him, i mean my love for him is pure and unconditional, and if i am wrong then is it wrong to love your family members too? does it mean that we should love god only ? i know we should love his people as well, but what i mean here is that wouldn't loving our family be "Moh"? Please direct me to the right path. Simplicity of resposes will be much appreciated. Thank you. Waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh!
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with love for anyone. If you could love everyone with such passion and depth, you would be loving all of God and God's creation and you would be a saint.

Your love for your friend was fine. When we are young it is easier for us to feel strongly without limits. Parents in thier concern may not understand the purity of the innocent love. In fact, your parents in their overconcern have misconstrued the whole concept of love.

Remember," If you cannot see God in all, you cannot see God at all" and God is full of love for all His creation....and so are we.

God bless you.