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Summary of Question:	Lonely, Unsatisfied With Life
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 4/14/2004 8:13 AM MDT

vaheguru ji ka khalsa

vaheguru ji ki fateh

im 19 years old and i feel really lonely and jus lousy and i cant really explain why. ive felt lik this for @ leest 1 and half years now and i dont no wot to do i fort it was just a phase and would phase but it hasnt. Also i reely feel like i want 2 meet my soul mate. i do paart it the morning and the evening but nothing seems to change well not permanatly neway as i do have soke weeks or day where i feel good but then i just go back to feeling lousy and alone, i feel lik people take advantge of me when i try to help them etc and im sick of being taken advantage of i jsut feel rely lousy and lonely although i do have some really good friends who i love to bits but they just dont understand me mainly beacuse i dont no how 2 explain woths wrong with me because i dont really no but no it just seems more permanent as i fort it would pass but it feels lik ive been lik this for ages and lik im neva gonna feel ne better.

vaheguru ji ka khalsa
vaheguru ji ki fateh

(REPLY) Sat Nam. I am not a psychologist, but I would suggest that possibly your depression may be needing some professional medical help. However, from a spiritual standpoint (which is the most important perspective!) I would suggest that if you want to be happy, you start finding ways that you can SERVE people who are in need, rather than focusing on what YOU need or want. It is easy to feel sorry for yourself, and feel you are "being taken advantage of" but you have the power to change that, if you change your attitude. There is great power in simply counting your blessings. I know that seems like a platitude, but it is absolutely true, that an attitude of gratitude will bring blessings to you. You are not crippled, you have both arms and legs, you are not starving, you do have friends, so stop focusing on what you lack in your life, and find ways to help others feel better! Do some seva. REad Japji Sahib every single morning to get your perspective about what your purpose is on Earth. You were born to have the opportunity to EXPERIENCE the God within you, and you have the guidance of the Shabd Guru to turn to and experience. Do it. Blessings, SP