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Summary of Question:	Why??
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Sunday, 5/02/2004 3:14 AM MDT

i have been sexually assaulted by somebody who i reely trusted, somebody who was ment 2b or even is really religious and spiritual why did this happen 2 me? now im scared - scared of men im scared of wot marriage holds for me will i b married to a decent guy if there is such a thing or will i b married 2 sum1 lik the others who i have met - who take advantage of me and violate my body not that it feels lik my body nemore it just feels numb i feel lik im losing my religion - y did vaheguru let this happen 2 me?? im scared of my future it seems like i dont have much of a future im just waiting for the next terrible thing to hapen to me i used 2 dream of married life being so blisful and finding sum1 who loves me and whol take care of me but now i c no hope for happiness in my life i feel lik if i trust sum1 they will take advantage of me i neva asked for this i dnt even no wot i did 2 mak it happen i trusted him he used to tell me i was lik a daughter to him but he...i wanted to marry sum1 who was religious so that we cud ahak amrit tgeda bt will i eva find such a person? and even if i do will he b genuine cus the person dat did wot he did 2 me was ment 2b amritdhari i reely dnt no wer my life is going, i have no hopes or dreams nemore i scared to hope and dream beocs if i do the things i want will b given 2 me for a split second and then taken away from me leaivng pain and sadness lik they always do in my life. i just waitng for the next bad thing ill pray 2 vaheguru lik i always hav dun but that didnt prevent wot hapend so will it eva restore my happiness or dus god hate me, even if he dus i will still pray just in hope that vaheguru will love me but i doubt it i doubt ill eva have happiness in my life i shud b used to pain by now but my mistake has been 2 look 2 hapiness after bad things happen this tym im expecting the next bad thing perhaps this way there will b less pain - wot is the point where is my life going ?????....

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Yes, a horrible thing happened to you. Yes, you were betrayed by someone who you trusted...who was supposedly spiritual. Yes, this person stole your innocence. But you have choices on how you respond to this incident and to your life from today onward. You can respond as a helpless and hopeless victim. You can shrink into believing that your life is over and worthless. you can get depressed and lack self esteem and self worth. You can assume that only bad things will come to you in your life. This is your choice.

You have another choice. You can acknowledge that this horrible thing happened to you...and you can reflect on what you have learned from it... and vow to yourself that it will never happen again. YOU and only you can prevent bad things from happening to you. You and only you can create your future, (with Guru's help, of course). Don't depend upon any human person but yourself. Develop your strength from within. Become a warrior/saint. Women can be the best warriors...warriors of Truth, righteousness, compassion, and character values. Use the technology we have in the Shabd Guru to make your self strong. Make your projection like the steel of Guru Gobind Singh's sword. You don't have to be harsh. Your words can be ever so soft and kind. It's your projection and firmness and confidence from within which will give the message - "I'm the daughter of Guru Gobind Singh. I am to be treated with respected and grace." Don't allow anything else.

I know this next statement is going to sound harsh and cruel, but it is true. Your weakness allowed your abuse. You are not helpless unless you allow it. It is your choice. Decide what you want for your life and go create it. Guru will help you if you but allow Him. Keep us posted. Blessings. GTKK