This is actually more of a comment to the lady that posted "Marrying a non Sikh". I am a Catholic woman married to a Sikh man. We will be married 5 years this year. Marrying someone different from you takes a lot of courage but also includes love, understanding and most of all patience. I have to tell you that I met my husband when I was just 16 years old. I am now 29 years old and I never intended to marry him because I always assumed he would never marry out of his religion and culture. I am a very devoted Catholic and my husband is not a very religious sikh but we certainly discussed how our children would be brought up and what religion our children will be. Choosing between your family and the one you love is never the easiest thing in the world and you shouldn't ever have to do it either. My husbands family was very upset at him for choosing me as he is the only son and the youngest of 5. So you can understand the difficulty in our situation. We didn't even know if they would even attend our wedding. We did have a western wedding and not an Indian ceremony as they were not very involved or willing to participate much. My husband was also threatened with being disowned and all the other things that come along with being the only son. I could go on forever telling you details but my point is that it's taken us a long time to be where we are today. Lots of tears have been shed on both sides but I have to tell you that my in-laws have certainly come around. I get along very well with my sister-in-laws, pajis and most of all my parent-in-laws. They are wonderful people and I love them very much. They have accepted me the way that I am and I have accepted them the way they are. It's taken a very long time but if you truly love your partner then you'll know if you are making the right decision. Your Dad might not uderstand or maybe he really does but he's afraid that this man will be taking you away more that you already are now. Parents do always want the best for their children, it's just that sometimes they go about it the wrong way. I'm sure he means well and I think that you're right, if he saw how really happy you are then he would very likely understand. Whatever decision you make will not be easy but if it's coming from your heart then you'll know that you've made the right decision. I wish you the best and God bless.
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