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Summary of Question:	Life Partner Choice
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 5/27/2003 9:03 AM MDT

HI

I'M NOT GOING TO LIE, JUST GOING TO BE STRAIGHT WITH YOU. BUT PLZ HELP ME BY REPLYING ASAP THANKS
I HAVE THIS VERY BIG PROBLEM.
(PLZ DONT TAKE ME THE WRONG WAY)
I'M 24 CLEAN SHAVEN YOUNG GUY AND I LIKE THIS GIRL AT THE GURUDWARA. I'M NOT ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO GOES TO CHECK OUT GIRLS AT THE GURUDWARA. SHE ALWAYS LOOKS AT ME AND SO DO I.
ITS BEEN LIKE THIS FOR FEW MONTHS NOW AND I WANNA MARRY HER. BUT I DONT WANNA TELL MY PARENTS ABOUT HER YET. I WANT TO GET TO KNOW HER FIRST AS FRIENDS. BUT I KNOW SHE IS SUCH A NICE PERSON. I THINK THIS IS MY SANJOG. I ONCE WENT TO THE GURUDWARA ON A NON PROGRAM DAY JUST TO DO MY METAH AND WHEN I PARKED MY CAR, SHE WAS PARKING HER CAR WITH HER FRIEND TO DO HER METAH TOO. SHE ALWAYS SMILES AT ME AND DOESNT STOP LOOKING AT ME, EVEN WHEN I DO SEWA FOR THE LANGAR. I ALWAYS SEE HER ON SATURDAYS IN DIWAN. ANOTHER THING IS I NEVER GO TO PARTIES UNLESS ITS VERY IMPORTANT. I ONCE WENT TO A VASAKHI MELA PARTY WHEN I WALKED IN, SHE WALKED IN FEW MINS LATER WITH HER PARENTS.PLZ CAN U HELP ME APPROACH HER IN A GOOD WAY, SO I CAN GET TO KNOW HER. I KNOW SHE WANTS THE SAME BUT SHES A SHY GIRL.
(PLZ DONT TAKE ME THE WRONG WAY)
ADVICE ON HOW TO APPROAH HER.
THANKS
WAHEGURU
PLZ CAN U LEAVE MY E-MAIL ON HERE SO PEOPLE CAN GIVE ME ADVICE
THANKS
enriquelafiga@yahoo.co.uk

(REPLY) Sat Nam. So, you think you're in love. Actually, you're infatuated, attracted . Not unusual -- but to call it love is overstating the case! However, if you want to get to know her, then find out who her friends are, and ask them to introduce you, or better yet, find out who her parents are, and introduce yourself to them. Or, ask your older brother, if you have one ? or your parents == can you speak with them? Watch out for starting a relationship without your parents approval, it usually leads to disaster. Another possibility is to have a party, and invite several people, and include this girl. If there is anyone at the Gurdwara who knows her, you can ask them about her, and find out what school she goes to, does she belong to any clubs you could join? Certainly meeting someone who goes to the same Gurdwara as you shouldn't be a problem. What about langar? sitting nearby?