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Summary of Question:	Who Makes Sikhi Rules These Day?
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Thursday, 12/19/2002 6:42 AM MST

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

hello i have a couple of questions i would like to have help with. The first one is that a month ago my dad and i took amrit and then i left for uni. When i returned my mother and father no longer shared the same bed. I asked my father why this was and he replied that the day we took amrit he was told that the only way he could have it was if my mother also accepted it but she didnt and he still took it. So therfore he cannot sleep beside a non amritari woman??? This was very hard for me to accept and i tried to use logic with him but he dosnt listen. There is nothing in Sikhism that promotes these messages and i think that Guru Nanak and Guru Gobind were the opposite of these. However its happend and it was said in the rehit the 5 piyareh say at the end which i nevewr follow. I chose to follow the one that was created by Guru Gobind Singh Ji. Well plz help me with this as this i feel isnt helping the marriage.
Secondly i visted waheguroo.com recently and i browsed the site and found a page where they compared sikhi with other faiths. However when i read the bakhti movement it was comparing with saints that are in the guru granth sahib. Like kabeer, ravi das etc. Now they believed in matters that sikhi dosnt but isnt that kinda wrong just to take what sikhi agrees with and leave the rest. I mean if ur gonna use kabeer in Granth sahib shopuld kabirs beliefs also be similar to that of the Granth Sabib? Its not that i disagree with them its just its kinda like picking and choosing what u like and putting what u like inot and book and leaving out what u dont regard as true from a saint. well thank you anyways :)
May God bless the modertators here who do seva for us!!!

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As far as the last question, it seems like you have answered your question already. It didn't appeal to you, that is what counts. There will always be people who mix and match, corrupt, and rearrange teachings. Think and do what is best for you.

Now, as far as the question about your father sleeping with your mother, who is not an Amardari Sikh. I have never ever read or heard that someone who has taken Amrit can't sleep with his wife who is not taken Amrit. Taking Amrit is a very personal decision. There should never be any pressure or conditions to it. Your mother has the right to make up her own mind. I can see how this must be putting the marriage under undue stress. It is very unfortunate. Probably someone who is very fanatical and misinformed has put this idea into your father's head. Your father, out of his devotion, is trying to do what is best. It is actually a very unholy act to reject your wife, who has stood beside you, born your children, washed your clothes, cooked your food, cleaned your house, because she is not ready to make the same outer spiritual commitment. What is spirituality? Yes, it is commitment; it is also kindness, service, acceptance and devotion. It is very unspiritual to judge someone else. May Guru guide you and your father in realizing the Truth.

GTKK