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Summary of Question:	Sex
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 6/26/2001 11:12 PM MDT

Hi,

I am a sikh girl who is 16 years of age. Is it ok to kiss boys and do other things BUT NOT HAVE SEX? like other things i mean touching of the penis? it is not sex so please reply

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Jagroop

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Dear Jagroop:

Sat Siri Akaal. No, it is not OK. Kissing and holding hands, maybe. But what you are talking about is sex in everything but a technicality; it is naive to think it is not.

Sikhs do not believe in sex outside of that between two who are married to each other. Sex is considered to be sacred, an expression of love and sharing between two who have been united by Guru as one.

I don't know what your situation is, but I want to give you some general advice, speaking as a woman with some experience on this: for women, having sex with different partners does nothing but add to one's insecurity about men. It might make you great in bed, but when you start thinking the guy is yours for good and then he two-times you or ignores you after the first bedding, how is that going to make you feel?? Having a man tell you he's yours so that you'll sleep with him is not the way to get a man.

Please see the many other posts on this Forum about parameters for sex, dating, etc. outside of marriage.

Guru rakha,
--DKK