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Summary of Question: | Re: Who Makes Sikhi Rules These Day? |
Category: | Love & Marriage |
Date Posted: | Thursday, 12/19/2002 1:35 PM MST |
kabeer maa-i-aa tajee ta ki-aa bha-i-aa ja-o maan taji-aa nahee jaa-ay.
Kabeer, what good is it to give up Maya, if the mortal does not give up his pride?
(1372-17, slok, Bgq kbIr jI)
maan munee munivar galay maan sabhai ka-o khaa-ay. ||156||
Even the silent sages and seers are destroyed by pride; pride eats up everything. ||156||
Hello,
I start with the slok from Bhagat Kabir Ji since it points out one of the problems in many relationships.
I would like to try and help the person who said her dad and mom don’t share the same bed anymore since dad is amrithdhari and mom is not. Your dad won’t understand any logic unless it comes from Guruji itself. Try to use the following logic on him. Ask him first if he believes in Guruji with all his heart. I am sure he will say yes. Then simply remind him about the laavaan read to him on his day of marriage with his wife. Ask him if he still remembers what Guruji told him that day. I don’t know much about the laavaan so I can’t give you a specific understanding of it. The moderators may be able to help you out with this.
Life is a continuous learning process. It’s just like school. I am sure you took math in school. You will know that you can’t do calculus if you have forgotten to do algebra. At that time you must go back and learn algebra to do calculus. It’s same with life. Your dad has forgotten what he learned on his wedding day and is trying to continue with marriage. He should go back and listen to the laavaan and understand Guruji’s words.
Ask him what he would have done if Guruji had deserted him in the begening when he had not taken amrit? Ask him what he would have done if God stopped residing in his heart and told him that he is not going to SHARE his body since he has not taken amrit? Guruji accepted him as he was and kept on loving him and that love made your dad take amrit and accept Guruji. The same is true with him and his wife. He should accept her as she is and keep on loving her. One day she will honour his love and will take amrit.
I hope this helps. I am sorry for anything said wrong or that hurts.
God bless all :)