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Summary of Question:	Need Help....Advise On How To React To Being Rejected
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 3/03/2004 8:30 PM MST

so here is the deal...Are you a good person? Are you a happy person generally? Great so focus on that.

Remember in India they do things like that. Do not look at it that you are not worthy... You are special and there is a special person for you just not him... be a proud young woman and do not settle for less than a person who is believes on you regardless of any picture...as your confidence comes back so will great people... focus on making yourself happy first and think that you also have many choices.

goodluck

SSM


hi....well i hope someone can offer me some guidance here...i like ur site alot...my story is that i went to india, met a guy thru my parents, really really liked him and he seemed to liked me alot....he initiated meetings n things were kool...his folks told my parents to let them know one to two months in advance when we will be back...so my paretns called them up to tellthem and then his dad asked for my pic.....saying he needed to show someone in family (an elder aunt)....well then after i sent it, like he didnt email me back, we were keeping contact via email....so i emailed saying my aprents needed an immediate answer...so he told via email that sorry but his family was on a verge of settlement with somene else...so i feel my pic (basically me) was so horrendous that he rejected me cuz of it....so now i dont know anything....like shoudl i email him back telling him y the heck he was lying n his whole family that i was liked from day one and that everything was kool on their side as etc...he kept telling me how he remembered our meeting n stuff...like he made it seem he liked me u know....so how can i respond back (and should i even?) and be dignified....i feel embarassed cuz familiy was involved....usually u know if u dont like agirl's picture then u dont proceed further...and if u dont like her on the face to face meeting then dont see her again...but he did for a week and his family was involved...so i feel awful and ugly and stupid....whats the best way to handle this? how do i respond back with dignity?....it has affected me alot, i think of it alot and cry alot and feel awful and humiliated.