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Summary of Question:	Re: (Follow Up) Elder Sikh Girl Wants To Marry A Younger Hindu Guy
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Thursday, 8/12/2004 4:02 AM MDT

Sir, I did go through almost all of the forum questions posted on this site regarding inter-racial marriages and honestly, I found mixed variant "opinions" of the moderators. That was the reason I had framed my question and asked an answer from the Guru Granth Sahib Ji itself.

For e.g.
http://www.sikhnet.com/sikhnet/youth.nsf/3d8d6eacce83bad8872564280070c2b3/b06007cf1fff494e872568ef00260530!OpenDocument&Highlight=0,marriage
http://www.sikhnet.com/sikhnet/youth.nsf/3d8d6eacce83bad8872564280070c2b3/da8aaf158726bf3c87256c1d00766998!OpenDocument&Highlight=0,marriage

Both the above links are responses in a more of a positive tone to the same issue of inter-racial marriage where as other links such as the one I have pasted below is not too much into the affirmative.

http://www.sikhnet.com/sikhnet/youth.nsf/3d8d6eacce83bad8872564280070c2b3/dbbc6eb4a8cc16a687256bfa007bc75d!OpenDocument&Highlight=0,marriage

Sir, While I respect the various opinions expressed by the moderators, the answers have left me more confused than ever before.
Apart from that, the moderator in their reply states that a Marriage is a blending of two bodies into a single soul, and also raises the question of Sikhs worshipping only one God.

Sir, my query is that I will never impose my religion onto her, I would never allow her to call herself a Hindu even if we marry. The statement saying "We have our Shabad Guru as the ultimate guide"; Sir, if you look upto the original query I presented, I had clearly mentioned that The GuruBani's and Shabad have been a very strong inspiring force for me all through my life, and even being a Hindu, I have never refrained from expressing my faith in Babaji and his sayings. Hence, I do not think that her marrying into my family can raise any question regarding religion.

I hope that has answered your query regarding religious future.

But again, like I had stated above, Sir, I am not looking for any personal opinions here, I want to learn what the Granth Says regarding the same. Please, if you can help about it, I would be blindly Blessed

Jai Shree Ram
Wahe Guru

P.S. :- The Other main question, regarding Me being a few years younger to her was overlooked in the whole debate too, So if some light can be shed on it too...


Hope I am not asking for too much
:)


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ORIGINAL QUESTION FOLLOWED UP BY THE PROVIDED ANSWER PASTED BELOW FOR REFERENCE

You have received a response to your question. Following is your
original
question and then the answer at the end
Elder Sikh Girl Wants To Marry A Younger Hindu GuySat Sri Akal, As you
might have realised the core of my problem from the Summary, let me
explain
it to you.
I am a 22 year old hindu guy, who is in love with a 27 year old Sikh
Girl,
and her feelings are also reciprocated towards me. No, we have not been
dating or going out or any such thing, just the fact that we like and
love
each other a lot and are not interested in any sort of a romantic
relationship, except marriage. she is a firm believer in Sikhism, and
the
religion attracts me a lot too. I have made it clear to her, that i will
not demand or as a matter of fact, even accept a conversion of religion
from her.
What i want as an advise is, what do the Guru's say regarding this
problem
of mine? if someone can shed some sort of light on the same topic, it
would
mean a lot of things can get cleared in between us, and we can look
towards
our future, be it together or individually seperate.

May the Granth Always Shower blessings upon every individual here

Jai Siya Raam
Wahe Guru ji Ka khalsa, Wahe Guru ji ki Fateh

gursagar@khalsa.com

(REPLY) Sat Nam. I appreciate your respectful question and wonder if
you
have read any of the numerous postings on the subject of inter-marriage
between Sikhs and non-Sikhs that have appeared on this site? Please do
some research and you will find an overwhelming number who cite the
difficulties and challenges and reasons why these marriages are not
recommended. Sikhs look upon marriage as the merging of two bodies
into
one soul. the way of worship, and the devotion of the partners really
needs
to be the same,so that they can be of one mind as well in this regard,
and
raise their children without confusion. Sikhs worship only ONE GOD and
we
have our Shabd Guru as the ultimate guide. Of course we respect those
who
worship differently, but that doesn't mean that we change our ways
either.
May God bless you with wisdom, SP

(REPLY) Sat Nam. POssibly there may be a scholar among our readers who can find something specific in the Siri Guru Granth Sahib to satisfy your request. To the best of my recollection and experience of reading Siri Guru Granth Sahib, the message is primarily that ALL relationships on Earth are temporary, and that our focus should be on remembering God's Name, repeating God's Name, and remembering that neither husband nor wife nor son nor daughter shall go along with us when we leave this body. I realize you would like some confirmation and approval of your desire to marry -- but I do not believe you will can find as you've requested. You certainly could read for yourself by accessing the Siri Guru Granth Sahib from the home page of SikhNet website, where you can find an English translation of the entire Shabd Guru. What we have tried to do on this forum is to apply the wisdom of Sikh ethic as solutions to problems presented -- and that includes common sense understanding of the pitfalls and practical difficulties that are certain to result from intermarriage between people of different religions (such as how to raise your children with strong faith in God - without the confusion that inevitably will result from each parent having a different way of worship.) I hope that you will pray for guidance for what is best for both of you. SP